I've noticed that as I become older, I'm a little better at confrontation than I used to be.
That is to say, that I will now confront someone when I have no other choice.
I wasn't allowed to have an opinion.. or if I did.. I should keep that to myself because nobody cared.
You did as you were told - period. There was no conversation and if you attempted anything resembling one, you paid dearly. I learned a LONG time ago, to keep my yap shut.
So as I grew up I went along with whatever anyone said because I didn't want to make waves. I was constantly on the look out for anything that would rock the boat. It was better to just be invisible and fade into the background than it was to speak up and take the chance of someone knocking the hell out of you because they didn't agree.
Somewhere along the line, I put *silence + obedience = love*.
I still have a hard time really voicing anything that may cause a rift. A lot of times, I internalize things and I feel the resentment building inside of me. It's with friends, other family and some coworkers.
It's something I am actively working on...